I am a very lucky guy.
I have been on this earth for over 45 years now. 45 years is a lot – it’s more than what many people get. 45 years of life and lessons also give you plenty to write about.
Here’s just a little bit of my story:
I was born and raised in Sri Lanka – a tropical paradise nestled in the Indian Ocean, just below the Indian sub-continent. Growing up in Sri Lanka was an amazing experience. There was never a dull moment. Sometimes, life seemed like a carnival – full of sunshine and fun. Yet, at other times, life could be dark and scary.
I lived through some of the bloodiest times in the country’s history and saw first-hand the madness that can come over people in times of fear and anger. This was literally ‘brought home’ to me when I lost my brother in 1991. He was an army officer and was killed in battle just 2 weeks before my 18th birthday.
Life was never going to be the same again.
Words can’t express the sense of sadness and despair that I felt at the loss of my brother and in seeing how it affected my parents and siblings.
Yet, it wasn’t all doom and gloom though. I had some of the happiest times of my life in Sri Lanka: warm weather, wonderful friends, spicy food and cold beer … it was heaven on earth!
What stands out the most for me though, are the people – my friends, my family, my neighbours, my teachers – some truly amazing people!
I managed to make it through school alive and went on to study law. I ended up practising as an attorney for several years and enjoyed (most of) it.
Life was pretty good, but then it got even better – I met the love of my life. We met when she was holidaying in Sri Lanka. A long-distance relationship ensued and we were married within 2 years of our first meeting. Then came the big move – to the U.K.
Even though my life in Sri Lanka had been eventful and exciting, nothing prepared me for what was to come. 2008 was when it all started. I was 35 years old at the time.
Established in the legal scene once more and the proud partner at my own (little) firm, I was living a fairly ‘normal’ life: married; working full-time; with a house of our own; reading newspapers and watching TV.
Physically, mentally and emotionally, I was very much an establishment man, heavily invested in the System. Then, two people came along and changed it all. Life was never going to be the same again – again!
The first person to shake up my life and turn it upside down was a British writer and speaker named David Icke.
I first came to know of him when I stumbled upon one of his talks on TV. I was flicking through the channels looking for something to watch and something made me stop and pay attention to what this man was saying.
I was hooked as soon as I gathered what he was talking about!
Icke seemed to be saying the most outrageous and far-fetched things, but weirdly enough, they made perfect sense.
The things he was saying about politics, wars and so on were not things you’d ever hear in the mainstream media or the news, but from the perspective that he was offering, it all fitted together perfectly and made a lot more sense.
The student was ready. The teacher had arrived.
I went all in. I read, watched and listened to all the David Icke material I could lay my hands on.
Little by little, a picture began to emerge – of the global conspiracy of control and manipulation, the true nature of reality, our own true nature (as opposed to our conditioned behaviour) and so on.
I then checked out the work of the people he mentioned or referenced. Not only that, I also discovered people who he’d not mentioned, but were saying similar things.
Then I came across a really amazing video by Peter Joseph called ‘Zeitgeist‘. It brought a lot of their messages home to me in one easy to digest documentary (I fully recommend you watch it – you can watch online or download from the official website and there is no charge).
The picture that emerged was far different from anything that I had been taught or exposed to in the mainstream – school, university, mainstream media and religion, but it made a lot more sense.
It felt right intuitively.
All the speakers, writers, filmmakers and bloggers I had discovered were trying to do one thing – wake people up to what was going on.
I paid attention. I watched. I listened. I read. I learned. I was wide awake by now!
Rhonda Byrne, ‘The Secret’ and the Law of Attraction
The second person to provide me with an invaluable shaking up was Rhonda Byrne – an Australian filmmaker and writer.
If you’ve never watched (or read) The Secret, then please stop reading this and go watch it now (it’s available on Netflix and portions of it are even on Youtube).
It will change your life. I did mine.
The Secret introduced me to the ‘Law of Attraction’ and the idea that I create my life experience through my thoughts, feelings and emotions.
Just like Icke inspired me to learn more about the things he writes and talks about, Rhonda Byrne got me learning as much as I could about the Law of Attraction and how I could apply it in my own life.
With this new knowledge and awareness came a new way of seeing myself and the world around me. I had changed and I was committed to learning even more. I got to the point where I felt the need to make big changes in my life – changes that felt truer to the person that I had become.
I gave up watching TV and following mainstream news; I gave up politics and taking sides; I learned to love and accept more and to judge less (I’m still working on this). I became more mindful and deliberate about how I led my life and spent my time and money. I began exercising regularly.
I learned to be more present and aware of my thinking and emotional states. I began to consciously guide my thoughts and self-talk. I began giving thanks for all that I had in life. And, I began dissolving beliefs that were limiting or otherwise unhelpful.
I even decided to give up my career in law! It just wasn’t ‘me’ anymore.
There were more changes to come – I went back to university. This time it was to study psychology. I got a job supporting people with learning difficulties. I became more open to spirituality. I became a vegan.
And then, I became a dad for the first time – what a game changer!
I’m still learning. I’m still changing. I am still doing my best to apply what I have learned – to evolve and fully embody the new consciousness that humanity is beginning to embrace.
I have my good days and my bad days (bad days are days when I let things like fear or anger get the better of me). But I have come to realise that there is no going back now. No matter how many times I falter, I know I will always, always try again – to live this new way.
So dear friends, this is the point at which you have joined me in my journey: a point where I feel that life works – now that I understand it just a little bit better – and that we can all have, do or be, anything we want to be.
And I can’t think of anything more worthwhile or rewarding than sharing that message with others!
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