You watched ‘The Secret’, learned about the Law of Attraction and now you want to put it to use…
‘Feel the feelings of having it now,’ right?
Vision board and visualisation, right? Not quite.
It’s not that these things don’t work – they have done for millions of people and will continue to do so for millions more – but they may not necessarily be the things that work best for you. At least, that’s been my experience.
Let me explain…
A Bumpy Ride
Learning to use and apply the Law of Attraction has been an exciting journey. But it hasn’t been without its share of bumps and potholes.
I tried to do what I learned from watching The Secret and from reading other books on the subject. But I kept hitting snags.
I enjoyed setting up my vision board, but then, as crazy as it sounds, I kept forgetting to look at it! And no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t get into visualisation.
And so, on it went…until I was in despair.
Then, thankfully, I came across Abraham and Hicks and The Teachings of Abraham.
Abraham and Hicks
The Secret first opened my eyes to the Law of Attraction. But Abraham took it a whole new level (Incidentally, Abraham and Hicks were featured in the original version of The Secret, but were later edited out due to differences between the parties).
The Power of Feeling Good
Of the great many things that Abraham taught me, the most important one is that I could attract anything I wanted, simply by feeling good.
Every teacher that I encountered before taught different ways of working with goals and desires to make them a reality. So naturally, I was shocked to learn that I didn’t need to focus on the subject of interest – at all – in order to manifest it. In fact, Abraham actually recommends ignoring the subject altogether, if it makes you feel anxious or ‘wobble’!
They give the assurance that the Universe knows exactly what I want and the best and quickest way to bring it to me. And so, they point out that my job is to manage my vibration – to become a vibrational match to what I want.
In other words, my job was to feel good (because that’s how I would feel when I got what I wanted).
What I did, in order to feel good, was left entirely up to me. Sure, they and other teachers had tips and tricks to offer, but I was free to come up with anything else that worked for me.
Life is Supposed to be Fun
The other important thing Abraham taught me was that ‘Life is supposed to be fun!‘
Sure, we could manifest all our heart’s desires by feeling good. But we could (and therefore should) choose to feel good regardless.
After all, wasn’t that the whole point in life? To feel good and to be happy?
As the popular internet meme declares:
You weren’t born to just pay bills and die.
Through Abraham, I learned about many other processes that I could use to help make my dreams a reality (In fact, about half of their book ‘Ask and It Is Given’ is devoted to processes and they share even more on YouTube).
Again, many of these just weren’t for me. But there was just one…
One of the processes Abraham teaches for using and applying the Law of Attraction is the practice of appreciation.
By appreciation, they mean focussing our attention on the positive aspects of any person, thing or situation. It could be through observing something that is happening right now, or by imagining something, or even remembering something that happened in the past.
Whatever the time or tense, and whether true or imaginary, didn’t matter. All that mattered was whether it helped you feel good. If so, it was worth doing.
‘You can Pet Your Cat and Let It In’
Abraham teaches that what you want is constantly making its way to you and you are either letting it in or pushing it away. Accordingly, anything you do to feel good ‘lets it in’.
You could, therefore, appreciate your pet cat and have it bring you your promotion at work (something that is alluded to in The Secret). Of course it would help to be good at your job and get on with your boss, but still, feeling good helps just as much, if not more!
Anyway, while I may have sucked at visualisation and using vision boards, it turns out that I’m a bit of a ninja at appreciation!
And I’d like to tell you how I used this process to bring something (actually it’s ‘someone’) wonderful into my life…
When we first got married, having a child wasn’t high on our list of priorities. We were both focussed on our careers and working full-time while studying for our professional qualifications. And we wanted to spend what little free time we had on just getting to know each other and doing bits of traveling here and there.
But by the time 2008 rolled around, we had the whole career thing under control and had spent six years as man and wife. And I was getting broody.
We had ‘kinda sorta’ been trying for a child, but nothing was happening. So we went to the doctors to look for help and answers.
One thing led to another, and after a battery of tests, we were told that it was down to hormone levels. We were then offered the chance to put ourselves on the waiting list for IVF treatment. It was 2009 now and we were told that the waiting time would be about two years.
Standing outside the hospital that day, my wife and I both made an agreement. It happened quite spontaneously. While we were both grateful for all the help the doctors had given us, we didn’t want to go ahead with IVF treatment. And we didn’t want to wait another two whole years.
We were deliberate creators now.
We agreed that we wouldn’t stress or worry over this. No. We were going to relax and trust that our child would come when the time was right. And so we moved on and got on with our lives.
Except that I didn’t quite move on…
Applying the Law of Attraction
After repeatedly reading and hearing that you could use the Law of Attraction to have, do and be, anything you want, I decided to consciously apply it to bring us our child.
I didn’t write affirmations or create a vision board. And I didn’t close my eyes and visualise what it would be like. Instead, I did what came naturally to me.
I appreciated – I doted wholesale on every single infant and child I could set my eyes on.
Every day, no matter where I went, I would look around for children. And when I saw any, I stopped, and focussed all my attention on them and appreciated the heck out of them. I noted their features, their smiles, their clothes – everything. And I showered them with my love and adoration.
I also began visiting children’s clothing stores regularly – ‘Baby Gap’ and ‘Cabbage Patch’ were two of my favourites. I just loved looking through all the cute clothes they had on offer. I’d always wanted a daughter, so I lost myself in admiring the little dresses and things.
I guess this was my way of ‘feeling the feelings of having it (her) now’. It felt good to do these things and I felt good, during and after.
And I never lost hope. I never thought or spoke about not having a child. Instead, I chose to believe… looked forward to the day.
A Visit from the Stork
It was early 2010. I was back at university now, studying psychology and loving every minute of it. I had exchanged my life as a lawyer for that of a ‘mature student’.
And although she was still in accounting, my wife had also left her stressful job and was much happier at the new one.
We had supported each other through some tough times and helped each other to leave the stress and unhappiness of our work-life behind us.
We were both feeling a lot more relaxed – feeling good, consistently.
It was then that we learned that she was expecting. And then, in September, our baby was born. And it was a girl!!
I was simply over the moon! My dream had come true! I now had my own little angel to dote on, and appreciate – something I do every single day.
And now, we’re busy living happily ever after, together…
But Wait, There’s More!
We’ve gone on to create and manifest many other wonderful things, using the Law of Attraction, including our long-term travel.
Again, we didn’t know *how* we were going to make it happen – and we knew that ‘the how’ was not our job. We only knew *what* we wanted. And we chose to believe that it would somehow work out for us.
And so we chatted, enthusiastically, about where we’d like to go and what we’d like to do. We borrowed travel books from the library and spoke to friends who’d already visited the countries we were interested in visiting. And we watched lots and lots of travel videos on Youtube – more or less daily.
Then it happened. Everything just fell – perfectly – into place. And a year later, we’re busy planning our next trip!
With that said, I’d now like to offer a few practical tips…
How to Use the Law of Attraction – Some Practical Tips
Be deliberate. The Universe doesn’t reward sloppy thinking. So you have to be conscious and deliberate. You have to make feeling good a priority.
Do the work. The idea is to think about your desires in ways that are pleasing to you; to imagine what it would be like when they have materialised, and to feel the feelings you would feel when they did. Or, just get happy.
Either way, this won’t happen by itself and you need to take the initiative. This is your ‘work’.
Let go on the ‘how’. As most teachers say, you don’t have to know how it’s going to happen. So you don’t need to try and control things or try to make anything happen. Just focus on the ‘what’ and trust and believe. And then it will come – as it must.
Do anything you can to stay happy and keep your vibration high. Do anything that makes you feel good. Sing. Dance. Play. Write a gratitude journal. Look for things to appreciate. Watch, read and listen to things that make you laugh. * See the ‘Resources’ section below for ideas and downloadable tools.
Do anything you can to reinforce your belief. Read success stories from others who have done what you want to do. Watch their videos. Listen to their stories.
Remind yourself of everything you have achieved so far. Look back on your life and remind yourself of all the things you’ve achieved. You may or may not have used to the Law of Attraction to achieve them, but you still did it. But underneath it all, it was your thinking and belief that helped.
When you remind yourself of what you have done, it makes it easier for you to believe that you can do more.
Be disciplined. Stay on track. Life is full of distractions – mostly unhelpful ones – that cause delay. Anger, fear, and sadness – do your best to avoid these and live in your ‘happy bubble’ as much as possible.
Follow the Inspiration. As the teacher Bashar points out through his analogy, your Higher Mind sees and knows things that your Ego personality doesn’t.
The Ego is in the valley and sees only what is directly in front of it. The Higher Mind is on the mountaintop. It sees the bigger picture and is calling you.
So when the call comes, just go.
You don’t have to attend a speed-dating event to meet your ideal partner. You could meet her while visiting your good friend – who just happens to be her cousin sister (Incidentally, that’s how I met my wife)!
Remember, as Rumi the poet pointed out:
What you seek is seeking you.
So I tell you, friends, you can use the Law of Attraction to get what you want; to manifest your biggest and wildest dreams… And when it comes to doing your part, it’s not so much what you do, but how it makes you feel.
And feeling good is the key.
- Consciousness As the Underlying Reality
- The Law of Attraction – What You Need to Know and Why You Need to Be Excited About It
- Why the Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work for You and How to Fix It
- The Secret (website)
- Abraham and Hicks – Teachings of Abraham (website)
- Abraham and Hicks official Youtube channel
- Bashar (website)
- 30 Days of Gratitude (A gratitude journal with quotes to guide and inspire you)
- Five Steps to A Happier You (An ebook that teaches you five simple actions you can take today to become happier)
- The Secret Success Stories (Browse success stories)