“And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.”
How many times have you had something happen to you that made you sit back and marvel at how amazing life is? Maybe it was because of how something wonderful happened and you were in the perfect place at the perfect time to experience it or benefit from it. Or maybe you had a glimpse into some other reality– like the world of a child or something in nature–that uplifted you and made you feel ecstatic. Maybe it was just an idea–perhaps a fresh insight into something that happened during your childhood–that brought you greater clarity about your life. Or maybe it was some wonderful coincidence that left you in awe at the timing and perfection of it all.
The above are all examples of what I refer to as life’s ‘magical moments’. They include (but are not confined to) what Abraham Maslow referred to as ‘peak experiences‘: experiences that make you come alive and stand out in your memory.
The funny thing about these magical moments is that the more you acknowledge and enjoy them, the more often you seem to have them. Of course this makes perfect sense if you accept the idea that ‘like attracts like’ (which is sometimes popularly referred to as ‘the law of attraction’).
But sadly, for most people, magical moments are often few and far between. I think this is because they unwittingly kill off the magic without giving it a chance to take hold and have a greater influence in their lives.
There seem to be three ways in which we most commonly kill off the magic in our lives.
- The first is when we fail to acknowledge them.
When something wonderful or seemingly impossible happens to us, we need to stop and take notice. We need to acknowledge them for being special occasions and allow ourselves to fully feel the sense of joy or excitement that they bring. It will also serve us to recognise that we have been especially blessed, privileged or cared for in such moments. We need to celebrate the magic and bask in it!
- The next is when we try to rationalise these experiences.
Trying to intellectually dissect them and prove to ourselves that it was somehow ‘probable’ or otherwise is sheer folly. Here we have been handed a wonderful gift, that when we are humble enough to admit it, we have no way of explaining, but then to try or worse, to pretend, that it could be explained, is sheer madness! Our job is to enjoy the gift. Not to figure out who sent it and how it was delivered. We are truly missing the point when we do this. We need to accept the magic as being simply that–magic!
- The last mistake is when we try to share the details of our magical experience with others.
Very often, other people are not in the mental or emotional place where they can see and accept the magic that you are sharing with them (this is why the magic happened to YOU and not to them!). So they are more than likely to shrug it off as no big deal or to try to rationalise it. Either way, you will be left feeling deflated and robbed of your magic.
I have therefore found that the better way to go about things is to enjoy the moments and the experiences as they happen… to really savour them…and to then move on. Store the magic safely in your heart where it belongs and revel in it as often as you can. This way, nothing spoils your magic and you can begin to experience more and more of it in your life.
You might later find that you will have insights that bring greater clarity about these incidents–without the need to analyse them at all. At other times, someone else might share something magical that happened to them and maybe this will be the perfect time to share your magic with that person (if you want to).