“To be always intending to make a new and better life but never to find time to set about it is as to put off eating and drinking and sleeping from one day to the next until you’re dead.”
– Augustine “Og” Mandino
“I will persist until I succeed. Always will I take another step. If that is of no avail I will take another and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult… I know that small attempts repeated, will complete any undertaking.”
– Augustine “Og” Mandino
So you read the quotes and you’re thinking: “I hope this guy is not about to make happiness come across like ‘work'”. Trust me, I am the last person who would want to do that! Yet, there are a couple of things that for me have been ‘inescapable truths’.
The first was the realisation that I needed to actually do the things that would contribute to my daily sense of happiness (sometimes it meant not doing certain things too – but more on that later).
The next, was to acknowledge that there could be ‘bad’ days where I might falter or somehow fall short of my expectations of myself, but to keep going regardless.
In a sense, it’s a lot like when you are trying to give up alcohol or something similar. You know you want to do it and so you start. You take it one day at a time and do your best. Then, if you ever ‘fall off the wagon’, you accept that it happened and you get back on the wagon because that is what’s going to take you where you want to be headed.
When I first began studying the Law of Attraction and learning how to apply it, I would have times where I would start off feeling really pumped and upbeat: “This is SO awesome!”; “Yeah, I can DO this!” And then, a few days or weeks later, I would slip – I would end up not reading or listening to the material as often as I needed to; I’d stop writing lists of things I am grateful for and so on… And then I would slip a little more… “This is just not happening for me.”; “Why can’t I just friggin’ DO this already!?”; “Where’s my stuff!?”.
A few days later would come the big explosion (the ‘hissy-fits’ or the ‘diva-tantrums’ as my wife and I have come to call these episodes) – I would get really angry and rant about how it was too difficult and then put my books and material back in the cupboard and wow to never look at them again : )
I would calm down (eventually)… and then, in a week or two, I would find myself taking the books back out. I’d get excited again and start anew.
Since around the middle of last year, I stopped putting the books away during my tantrums. For the past 4 months or so, I haven’t really had any tantrums. Very recently, I also stopped beating up on myself so hard when I ‘failed’.
So, it does get easier. But you need to stay with it (and it’s so much easier when you learn to stop beating up on yourself about it, just because you had a bad moment).
I have found that practising happiness and learning to apply the Law of Attraction are both so similar in so many ways. It is all about acknowledging that there is a gap or a distance between where you find yourself now and where you want to be. It is all about being willing and determined to close that gap. It is all about guiding your thoughts and your life along the ways that will help you feel better. It is all about staying on course as much as you can and getting back on course when you’ve veered off.
There’s no magic to it. Anyone can do it. But it does take some time and some application. Consistency rules here.
And… I believe you always get your ‘reward’. Sometimes, you just need to recognise it when it comes.
When it comes to both subjects, I have realised that feeling good is one of the biggest and best rewards there is. Especially for a happiness addict like me.