“The happiest people in the world are those who feel absolutely terrific about themselves, and this is the natural outgrowth of accepting total responsibility for every part of their life.”
In my previous post, I described what happiness now means to me. In the past, I had relied on other people’s notions of what happiness meant, to guide my own thoughts on the subject. I had been so used to taking on the views of friends, family and society as my own that I didn’t know my own mind or what I really wanted in life. I was lost and didn’t even know it!
I also looked to others to bring me happiness. In the past, it was always someone else’s job to make sure that I was happy and that my life was running well – hardly surprising then, that I wasn’t very happy much of the time.
When I figured out that only I could define what happiness meant to me, I felt the huge sense of relief that only clarity can bring. When I finally understood that it was up to me to ensure my own happiness, I felt empowered to create a life of happiness and it felt more tangible and within reach. None of this happened overnight though and it was all very much a gradual process for me.
So for me, taking responsibility for my own happiness has meant deciding that my happiness matters enough to me that from then on, I was going to do what it took to live a happy life. This caused me to assess my life and get clear on what happiness meant to me (this sometimes changes and evolves as I go from day to day). Then, it was a case of doing the things and living in the way that I felt was best suited to me and my sense of happiness.
Taking responsibility has meant that it was no longer up to my spouse, my friends or anyone else to make it happen for me. It’s clear to me now that if you want to change your life for the better than YOU have got to take responsibility and make the necessary changes and do the things that will help you on your way.
Taking responsibility means no excuses and no passing the buck. I had to stop blaming other people for the way my life was going (something I had grown so accustomed to doing). But with the responsibility came power and it felt wonderful to be so much more in control over my own life and happiness.
Now I understand that when you are firmly in the driving seat, your life can take you where ever you want to go. This knowledge alone makes me a happy man!