“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Marianne Williamson
Life works. Everything is ticking along just as it should. Nothing is broken. Nothing needs fixing. Nothing, that is, except for our broken view of life.
We operate in a world where we are conditioned. Conditioned since birth. Conditioned in our beliefs and conditioned about what to think. By the time we’re adults, we don’t know our own minds. Worse still, we don’t know that we don’t know. We also don’t know and don’t believe that we have been conditioned.
We are handed scripts by society via religion, (mis)education, the media and Hollywood about what ‘normal’ is and what life should look like. This collection of bullshit is our biggest prison. It holds us trapped and confined until we take our power back and decide to leave.
These scripts takes no account for the fact that we are all unique individuals with minds of our own. We have unique desires, abilities and talents. What is right for one, is not always right for another. Yet, the system imposes conformity. Through these scripts, we buy into this conformity. But we are round pegs trying to fit into square holes. We can’t fit. We break. Our lives break. Then we feel like we need to fx it. But we can’t. We’re still round and the only pegs available through the system are square. We can try all our lives. We can lie to ourselves. Yet, as long as we – round pegs, try to fit into square holes, things will never work out.
There is no ‘normal’. True freedom comes from understanding this. This realisation allows you to ‘live and let live’. There’s great freedom in that.
Some get it. Some work this out. An even smaller number are also brave. They begin to look for a way out. They look for a place outside of the system. Outside of the script. They look for a round hole. This sends other people crazy. Who is this guy? What is he thinking? He’s looking for a round hole – doesn’t everyone know such things don’t exist! Let’s talk him out of this. It’s for his own good. It’s because we care.
Here’s the thing: it’s already a scary thing to wake up one day and realise that you don’t fit in. That’s a tough enough thing on its own. But if you have the guts to do something about it, then not only does it get scary, it also gets lonely. There’s no one else you know, who thinks like you anymore. There’s no one to support you or to compare notes with. The world feels a lot lonelier now.
The good news is that you get used to it. You learn to love your own company. The sense of relief you experience from being comfortable in your own skin, is a small price to pay for temporary social isolation. Temporary I say, because the law of attraction is always working. Even when we are in hermit mode. Soon, you will make new friends – they might be fewer in number because, let’s face it, these people are harder to come by than those who are still caught up in the lie. Yet, they exist and they will find you and you them. Also, a few of the old hands will adjust to the new you. Some will get it and change with you. Some might not get it, but they will still get the fact that they love you. They may not understand, but they will choose to accept – this is true unconditional love. These people are precious.
A few years in and you are no longer alone. You may choose to be alone more than you did before, but that’s because you see the value in quiet introspection. It’s not because there aren’t any people left to connect with.
You can do it! Go ahead and break free! You can live life on YOUR terms! Fear isn’t a good enough reason not to and you know it!
Go ahead. I am here, waiting for you. It’s going to be ok.