Life sometimes hands us lemons. When this happens, it’s usually quite easy to see these events as being ‘negative’. And it’s also easy to imagine that they have originated from some source other than ourselves.
But, if we accept that our outer world is a reflection of our inner world, then this idea must hold true at all times – even when things go wrong in our lives and even when other people act up and treat us badly.
If we consider ourselves ‘positive thinkers’ and yet are surrounded by people who complain all the time, we have to acknowledge that something inside of us is still creating and attracting these sort of people and behaviour. The same holds true of circumstances. If we think we are in a positive vibe and yet, things go wrong for us – our trains are delayed and our flights are cancelled etc. – we have to acknowledge that we have had a hand in creating this at some level.
Of course, it could be a matter of Divine intervention – maybe we missed that train because we could have come to some harm otherwise, or maybe the grumpy person made us go elsewhere, so we received a better service or outcome.
But in any case, we have to accept that these experiences are somehow caused by the ideas and programs we hold in our subconscious minds (in the above cases, our desires were to be safe and to receive good service and so we were helped in order to receive these things).
So the big idea here is to stop focussing on blaming and attacking the things that are going wrong and on the people who are behaving badly. Instead, we pause and remind ourselves that all of this is our doing and that it is all working in our favour. Either it is the Divine hand helping us. Or it is the case that through these people and circumstances, we are being shown what it is that we are holding onto at a subconscious level. We can then take the next step which is to look within ourselves to find the beliefs that we need to change and then go about changing them.
Focussing on the other person or on the thing that is going wrong keeps us stuck and in helpless victim mode. Though it is a bitter pill to swallow, when we choose to see all of it as our own creation, we give ourselves the power to change it so we never have to experience those situations or behaviours again.
So when life gives you lemons, you can go ahead and make lemonade. Or, you can look for the gift that it brings. You can acknowledge the way in which it somehow works in your favour. Or you could look for the lesson it holds. You can ask yourself why you created this situation and then work on changing the subconscious beliefs that created it.